Guest post by Nicola Sanders
Dating again after being a long relationship when you have children can be very difficult and not just for you but the children also. Many children want their parents to get back together no matter how unrealistic this may be. These feelings should not be underestimated as they can affect a child deeply.
Confidence
Has your confidence suffered after the breakup of your relationship? You are the norm if it has however, there are plenty of people out there for you – it’s just the small matter of finding them!
This can be a good time to think about having a makeover and updating your style. Sometimes you start to pay a little less attention to the way you look when you are settled in a relationship. Time to be bold and go for a brand new style. Ask friends for advice and take them shopping with you!
Don’t jump straight into a new relationship too fast.
When your confidence is low sometimes you can just jump into a new relationship that gets serious fast. This can lead to problems and further heartache later on. Don’t let go of your feelings too quickly, get to know the person and let feelings develop naturally.
Think about the type of person you would like to meet.
Think about qualities in partner that you rate highly, attractive, kind or intelligent.
It’s amazing the amount of people who start relationships with people who are clearly not suited.
Dealing with your children’s feelings when dating.
You need to take consideration to how your kids will feel when you start dating again. That being said you don’t need permission to start dating either! Listen to your kids and ask them how they feel, take time to explain that they will always be your number one consideration to you and tell them this will never change.
Don’t introduce them too early to any new partner and make sure it is a stable relationship with a person you can trust before any introduction takes place.
Be open and upfront about having kids to any new partner.
Don’t be tempted to hide the fact you have kids to any new partner.
Many people do this because they think it might scare them off. Well if they are not interested because you have kids well they are not good enough for you to date!
Where can you find potential new partners?
They are pitfalls for every method you use to find potential new partners. It’s find the best way that works for you. You need to take sensible precautions every time you go on a date. But don’t let any scare stories put you off, as if you are sensible everything should be okay.
Nicola writes for a baby boy names website. The website has much than baby names however; we have section on baby health, Breastfeeding tips and pregnancy week by week.
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